Have you ever had someone respond this way to you after taking the time to write a message, email, or letter? Communication is an essential part of being human. Responding with immaturity or disrespect doesn’t demonstrate strength or superiority; it reveals the opposite.

If someone chooses to engage in conversation, why not meet them with maturity and respect? It’s a basic part of life, and there are countless ways to communicate thoughtfully. Written and verbal communication each offer unique advantages.

Writing, in particular, allows us to pause, reflect, edit our thoughts, and express ourselves with clarity. It gives us time to re-read, correct mistakes, and engage when we’re mentally ready, without the pressure of being interrupted. Instead of dismissing these forms of communication, we should appreciate the space they create for more intentional and respectful dialogue. This is all providing the message being received is respectful in nature and not harassing, threatening, or harmful, of course. I think back to instances when I received long messages. The funny thing is, I have never thought to respond in this sort of way, because I value a person's time and effort to communicate or express themselves, whether it's writing or speaking. And yes, even in cases when the message may have aggravated me. I can compartmentalize my appreciation for a person taking the time and effort to write, vs. how the actual message may come across or make me feel. I am able to do this whether they make valid points, leaving me unable to refute the message, or whether it reveals misunderstandings or disagreements. What falls under being toxic? It can be both intentional and unintentional.

All hope is not lost! You can certainly recognize your toxic patterns and seek support to work on personal and inner growth. Toxic in relation to people: All things that fall under Verbal, emotional, and physical abuse, neglect, unaddressed or neglected mental health issues, poor emotional regulation skills, disrespectful, inconsistent, gaslighting, causing drama or conflict with others, manipulative, not accepting responsibility, plus more.

It could be how they were raised, their experiences, personality, or a combination. They don't know healthy ways to deal with their own stress, so they behave in ways that cause harm to other people. These people can create stress and unpleasantness for you and others, not to mention emotional and even physical pain. Source: WebMD. May you stay toxic-free! Much love.