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This is a HUGE project I’m working on, but for now I will share pieces of my life from the below. The full story will be available in a 📖

• My story, intersections & code-switching

• Feeling different in every sense

• Identity, belonging, origins, ethnicity, nationality & race

• Growing up in a multicultural home shaped by food, music, traditions & every skin shade, from pale white to dark skin Black

• Family history: the slave trade, Scotland, Jamaican plantations, sexual violence, genetics & ancestry research/testing

• Black Latino communities, segregation & “Little Jamaica” in Central/Latin America

• Parental Poverty, low-income upbringings & sugar addiction • Why I changed my last name

• My grandfather’s murder

• Christian & Catholic exposure

• Being AuDHD across cultures, burnout, chronic illness & invisible disabilities

• Culture shocks across white, Black, mixed & Hispanic communities

• Being the first mixed child on both sides of my family

• Learning about racism & colorism

• My parents testing racial bias in prices, rentals & treatment across Europe and the U.S., before cell phones

• How my family used racial + cultural privilege to protect each other

• My white mother’s racial & disability protection, and my dependence on it into adulthood

• Racial medical/dental trauma

• Horses in the mid-Southwest, the U.S. South, NY/MD & military-child life in Europe

• Moving 20+ times & having exactly 29 jobs (yes, there’s a list 😂) 

• My parents’ devastating divorce when I was 17

• Losing my dad & sister through ambiguous loss

• An abusive relationship, lifelong trauma & wanting to end my life

• A business dream turned nightmare: a major lawsuit & years fighting for justice

• Healing + therapy in: MD → Hawaii → Germany …and MORE.

About Intersections:

Intersections are important for identity because no one experiences the world through just one aspect of who they are. Our identities are made up of different characteristics, such as race, gender, sexuality, social class, religion, culture, and disability. These aspects overlap and interact with one another, shaping how we understand ourselves and how others perceive and treat us.

This concept is known as intersectionality, a term coined by legal scholar Kimberlé Crenshaw. It explains how different forms of privilege and discrimination can overlap, creating experiences that cannot be understood by looking at each identity separately.

Intersectionality helps us recognise that everyone's experiences are unique. It encourages us to look beyond single aspects of identity, understand inequalities more deeply, and build a more inclusive and empathetic society 🌍

#autism #adhd #neurodivergent #audhd #intersectionality #disability #mixed #multicultural #culture

🎵 Copyrighted music licensed from Lickd. https://lickd.co Make That Move (Single Version) by Shalamar, https://t.lickd.co/l/M624EeYPvD8

I’m married, I’m free, and I don’t believe those two things are contradictory. So why does that seem to bother some people? Let’s talk about it.

#education #relationship #couple #love #marriage #decolonize 🎵

Copyrighted music licensed from Lickd. https://lickd.co Runnin' (Interlude) by Kehlani, https://t.lickd.co/l/VdE4YaBwjO9

Let's stop further perpetuating this false beauty standard. Ageing is a privilege. We need to honor it, not shame it.

The religious symbol that makes you feel comforted or safe can make someone else feel unsafe. To be clear: this video is not an invitation to debate religion. I will absolutely not be discussing or debating anyone’s religious beliefs in the comments.

Religion is being used here as an example of a broader issue: entitlement, imposing your beliefs onto shared/public spaces, and expecting your personal meaning to override someone else’s experience.

The point is the behavior and the unequal standard, not whether anyone’s particular religion or belief system is “right.” If carving “Jesus” into a public bench counts as devotion, then carving “Satan” into that same bench has to count as devotion too, because it’s the same behavior and the same disregard for public property. Calling one sacred and the other vandalism is entitlement, the assumption that your god/belief system gets special treatment others don’t.

This video is from my IG and is both a response and a continuation of an older video I made on comparing. I’m using a clip of this guy as a direct example of why I support comparing in general and in relationships.

In the clip, he says he doesn’t think women should have certain rights, including that women shouldn't have unsupervised access to other women, and that their social media should be monitored, etc.

Has comparing any aspect of your life led to a positive life change for you? Feel free to also check out the original video on comparing in the mindset playlist titled “There’s Nothing Wrong with Comparing”. Feel free to also check out the original video on comparing in the mindset playlist titled “There’s Nothing Wrong with Comparing”.

Values & rules for my creative space.

hello! bonjour! ciao! hola! hallo! aloha! A little about me & why I share. Welcome and enjoy your visit!

They Just Want Attention. And? So what. Why is wanting attention automatically treated like a bad thing? In this video, I’m challenging the idea that being visible, expressive, or comfortable putting yourself out there somehow makes you less grounded, less secure, or less respectable. Maybe wanting attention isn’t the problem. Maybe you and your judgment are 😉. Let’s chat about it.

Let me make this clear…

If anything I say about what I am - not - interested in triggers you, threatens your identity, your expectations, or your fantasy of how a woman ‘should’ exist, and your first instinct is to lash out in the comments, don’t bother & don’t embarrass yourself.

You would not be checking me; you’d be merely exposing yourself (your unresolved insecurities). Take that discomfort somewhere useful, like therapy.

There have been some occasions in my life where a women lashed out over not only my interests/talents/abilities BUT, even more telling, over my lack of interest.

My disinterest seems to short-circuit some people. Instead of asking themselves why it bothers them, they project. They decide I must think I’m superior simply because I don’t want what they want.

That belief lives entirely in your head.

So, speak for yourself. If - you -  think I believe I’m better than you, congratulations on the self-report! lol. What you’re really admitting is that - you - believe I’m better than you 😂

People don’t react to confidence; they react to what it exposes in them. I am not here to carry the weight of your jealousy.

#education #mindset #women #men #couple #marriage #love

Are they the same, or is it the partner you chose?

#mentalhealth #education #mindset #couple #love #relationship #marriage

Let’s chat about why people criticize and react so strongly when someone dresses in a way they don’t find ‘acceptable’.

#education #mindset #mentalhealth

This topic always gets people talking, so here are my honest thoughts. In this video, I explain why I personally prefer male friendships, what I value in those relationships, and how my own experiences have shaped my perspective.

This is not about saying one type of friendship is better than another. It is about sharing my truth. I’ve had incredible friendships with both men and women. Whether you agree or see things differently, I appreciate hearing different viewpoints.

Share your thoughts in the comments, and let's keep the conversation thoughtful and respectful. If you enjoy content like this, be sure to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you don't miss future videos. Let's Chat!

#friendship #education #mindset #mentalhealth

My family and I have been navigating the journey of supporting a loved one with mental illness for well over a decade.

My sister's missing persons report was publicly posted by the Federal police, along with other community pages, which garnered a lot of interest (thankfully, she was found!).

Due to the repetitive comments people often make (and a few very ignorant remarks), I’d like to set some things straight regarding mental illness and homelessness.

Over the years, we have heard many well-intentioned but ultimately unhelpful comments. Such statements often reflect a lack of understanding and can be unintentionally hurtful. I hope this can help you gain a better understanding of this topic and allow you to spread awareness about it with others.

Thanks for tuning in.

Recap! It was meant to be a 'short', but was a bit more than 3 minutes. Enjoy

#cars #retro #retrocars #nostalgia #70s #80s

This is Still Happening!

When I was a little girl, I dreamed of being a ballerina. I loved my tutu and the ballet bag my mom bought me. I would dress up at home, practice my pliés and relevés, and imagine myself becoming a ballerina one day.

**In the audio format, you will hear me say "swipe for next page," but disregard it, as you can just listen without doing anything :)

Then I finally got the chance to take ballet lessons. But when I walked into that classroom, I noticed immediately that no one looked like me. Then another little girl looked at my brown skin, called it “poop,” and wiped her arm after accidentally touching mine, as if I had a contagious disease.

I was just a child, but I remember the feeling. The embarrassment, the hurt, and the feeling that something about me was wrong.

I didn’t stop loving ballet. I stopped feeling safe enough to pursue it outside of home. And unfortunately, this happened with many other things I wanted to do.

Looking back as an adult, I understand that this experience was about more than one hurtful comment. It became part of a much larger pattern of racial experiences that shaped how I saw myself, how I moved through the world, and how often I felt safe enough to be fully myself.

For years, I thought I was simply “shy.” It wasn’t until much later, through therapy, that I began to understand myself differently. I wasn’t a different person at home and outside of home. I was the same playful, expressive, creative little girl. I had simply learned where it was safe to be her.

This is one of many childhood memories I carry, and I’m sharing it because I know I’m not the only one. Children absorb far more than we realize. They notice who is included, who is celebrated, who is considered beautiful, and who is treated as different. They can begin internalizing those messages long before they have the words to explain what they are experiencing.

And something happened just a few years ago that brought this childhood memory right back to me:

When I lived in Hawaii, a white American girl who was my neighbor came to me crying after school. Other white children had told her that her skin was “poop” and asked her why she was so dark because she happened to have a beautiful, naturally tan, olive complexion. She told me sadly that she didn’t want to be brown and asked why her skin had to be brown. I talked with her about it and shared my own story of experiencing something very similar around the same age, when I was five/six.

And I’ll say this plainly: from the late 80s and early 90s to today, we need to do better. Parents, society, systems, all of us. Because there are children who never make remarks like this about someone else’s skin color. So the question is, why are some children learning, at such a young age, to belittle another child for having brown skin? Where are they learning that?

Children are not born believing that one skin color is better than another. They learn these ideas. And that means we have a responsibility to be intentional about what we teach, what we model, what we normalize, and what we challenge.

Every child deserves to feel safe being exactly who they are. Different skin shades. Different hair textures. Different cultures. Different bodies. Different ways of communicating and expressing themselves. Different ways of experiencing the world.

None of these differences are wrong, and no child should have to shrink themselves because of them.

This is why I share my stories. To remember the little girl I was. To honor what she experienced. To continue healing and unlearning, and to look at how far I’ve come. 🩰🤎

And hopefully, to help someone else feel a little less alone.

If you’ve experienced something similar, I hope you know there was never anything wrong with you.

#ballet #education #family #children #kids #marriage #couples #racism #decolonization

Many people recognize emotional abuse when the victim is a woman. Far fewer recognize it when the victim is a man.

In this video essay, I explore how controlling, manipulative, and emotionally abusive behaviours can become so normalized that they're dismissed as "just how women are," "happy wife, happy life," or "that's just marriage."

We discuss:

• Why common relationship behaviours aren't always healthy.

• The difference between insecurity, emotional dependence, and emotional abuse.

• What female-on-male emotional abuse can actually look like.

• Why constantly walking on eggshells isn't normal.

• How mental health may explain behaviour but never excuses abuse.

• Accountability, boundaries, and protecting your own wellbeing.

This video is not about attacking women or denying that women experience abuse. Women absolutely do experience abuse. Abuse is abuse regardless of who commits it or who experiences it.

If this video helps even one person recognise unhealthy relationship patterns or feel less alone, then it was worth making.

If you found value in this discussion, consider liking the video, subscribing, and sharing it with someone who may need to hear it.

I'd also love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Please keep the discussion respectful and constructive.

#EmotionalAbuse #abuse #MensMentalHealth #HealthyRelationships #Psychology #Trauma #MentalHealth #Relationships #Boundaries #AbuseAwareness #SelfWorth

Jealousy is an emotion. Weaponizing it is a choice.

There's a big difference between recognizing your insecurities and making everyone else responsible for them.

If you're constantly monitoring your partner's every move, creating stories about people who've done nothing to you, or confusing control with love, it may be time to ask yourself whether you're protecting your relationship or feeding your own fears.

In this video, I break down 10 behaviors that are often disguised as "being protective" but are actually rooted in insecurity and jealousy.

Healthy relationships aren't built on surveillance, manipulation, or control. They're built on trust, communication, emotional maturity, and accountability.

Your insecurities are your responsibility. They're not your partner's responsibility, and they're certainly not the responsibility of innocent people you've decided to compete with.

Which behavior do you think gets normalized the most in relationships?

#Relationships #education #marriage #couples #love

Sleeping separately often leads people to jump to negative conclusions, ones that usually say more about their assumptions or insecurities than about the relationship itself. “Something must be wrong.”

What if sleeping in separate bedrooms is actually a sign that something is working?

In this episode of ‘Eff' Norms, we're questioning the relationship "rules" we've been taught to accept without ever asking whether they actually make our lives better. For us, separate bedrooms mean better sleep, more peace, and a stronger, happier relationship, not less love.

You don't need a traditional relationship. You need one that works for you. What's one relationship "rule" you've challenged or let go of? Share it in the comments.

Stop measuring relationships by time. Start measuring them by truth. Today’s episode of Eff’ Norms: We Don’t Celebrate Anniversaries or “Longevity”. Some of you are not in love; you are just committed to staying. Too many people pride themselves on celebrating “X amount of years together” as if longevity alone equals success.

This one ties directly into my last video about what people think they need for a “healthy relationship.” Years together do not mean ‘healthy’; it can mean fear, comfort, or survival. Here we reflect on what people are really celebrating….

#education #couple #love #marriage #mentalhealth #relationship

Roses are red, violets are blue… 🌹 You criticize those Who Don't Value Valentine's…Yet You Celebrate it while in a Toxic Relationship… Who knew?! 🥀 😜😉

It might be time to rethink what Valentine’s Day really means and whether it should be used as a tool or measurement of a relationship’s success. It may also be worth reconsidering the assumption that if someone chooses to opt out, it must come from a negative place.

Sometimes it is not about rejection or resentment. It can simply reflect a different perspective on love and how it is expressed and celebrated 💘

#education #love #couple #marriage #valentinesday #relationship #mentalhealth

The number of people who complain about winter every single year is insane! Lol. Either relocate to a warmer climate or learn to embrace it- because the complaints won’t change the fact that winter shows up every year. But don’t worry, I used to be one of those people too.

A few years ago, I got tired of hearing myself complain, so I decided to change my mindset and my approach, and it worked; now I actually enjoy Winter. Let’s get into it! ⛄️

#education #mentalhealth #winter #ski #mindset

Stop chasing optics. We were taught that love has a formula: Rings. Marriage. Kids. Traditions. Milestones. Some of the most “perfect-looking” relationships are deeply unhappy. And some of the healthiest ones break every rule.

You don’t need traditional milestones to have something deeply healthy, loving, and secure. Maybe letting go of the need for the aesthetic is where the peace and fulfillment actually begin.

Cherishing your loved ones doesn’t just mean spending ‘time’ together. Time means nothing if you choose to either stay toxic or neglect your health - which will catch up to you eventually & make everyone suffer around you. Love is attachment, just like a web. If one part of the web is affected, it affects the entire web. People cannot change you; they can send you messages, but it’s up to you to care enough to change.

Which person are you? 🧐

1) The honest/direct one. Ppl can't handle it 😮‍💨

2) Yikes! I am the one who reacts & deflects 🫣

3) Just a touch of both!🤪

#education #mentalhealth

I want to clear this up directly so that you, the viewer, don’t have to guess my intentions or assign a motive to my words. I’ll simply tell you 😉 👉🏽

Who is this for?

This education is open to everyone.

• Parents

• Those considering parenthood

• Those who are child-free by choice

👉🏽 Why do I teach this topic, and everything else I speak about? As an educator, when I see a knowledge gap in society, it genuinely excites me. I see it as an opportunity to educate, raise awareness, challenge misconceptions, and advocate for the right of all people to make personal life choices free from unnecessary judgment and misinformation.

👉🏽 My intentions are simple: My intentions are simple:

1) I am not here to convince anyone that one lifestyle is better than another.

2) I believe in the right to choose the path that aligns with each individual’s values, circumstances, and life goals.

3) I encourage people to make balanced, informed, and thoughtful decisions rather than relying on harmful narratives, fear, or the experiences of others being presented as universal truths.

4) I believe it is important to discuss the more complex and uncomfortable realities of parenthood that are not always openly talked about. Caring about children also means caring about the people who may one day raise them. Those considering parenthood deserve honest information and thoughtful conversations before making such a life-changing decision.

Three truths can exist at once:

• Parenthood can be deeply meaningful.

• A child-free life can be deeply meaningful.

• Neither path makes someone inherently superior. Fulfillment isn’t one-size-fits-all 🫶🏽

👉🏽 Something many people may not realize: Child-free individuals often have a unique perspective and lived experience that others may never personally encounter.

This is especially true when it comes to the comments, assumptions, and expectations that are often directed specifically toward people who choose not to have children.

Many child-free individuals experience being on the receiving end of misconceptions, unsolicited opinions, and assumptions from both well-meaning people and those who are simply uninformed, unwilling to learn, or disrespectful.

At the same time, there are also many conclusions made about parenthood before the experience is fully lived and understood. Parenthood is a complex, evolving journey, and many realities only become visible through experience, reflection, and honest conversations.

The purpose of this education is to encourage curiosity, challenge assumptions, and create more space for honest conversations about the many different ways people experience fulfillment, identity, and meaning.

Let’s explore this dynamic with awareness, education, and a touch of sarcasm. More importantly, let this be a clear signal to end this foolishness once and for all. While some parents are respectful and fully understand, and even support the kid-free choice, there is still an overwhelming amount of ignorance surrounding this lifestyle.

Stay tuned for the next video in this series, titled: “The Superiority Complex of Parenthood.” We’ll break down why so many parents feel entitled to belittle those who choose to live kid-free, and what this mindset actually reveals about them when they demean, insult, or talk down to others 😉

#education #couple #marriage #childfree #love #parenting #community #family #mindset #mentalhealth

Most common reactions to responses about kids. Let's please evolve and stop mindlessly repeating stuff you’ve heard your whole life. I mean, at what point do we put a little more thought into what we say and whether it even makes any sense….

#education #parenting #children #childfree #family #couple #marriage

In this episode, we explore why parents should better understand the child-free-by-choice lifestyle and unpack the imbalance of emotional engagement between our lives and theirs.

#education #childfree #kidfree #childfreebychoice #parenting #family #kids #couple #marriage #relationship #love #community

These are just some reasons why awareness is so important. I’ve encountered so many individuals who are deeply misinformed about parenthood.

#education #childfree #parenting #family #couple #kids #relationship #childfreebychoice #love

Comparing is natural and human. It is often painted as a problem when it’s not. Let’s discuss the real issue.

#education #mentalhealth #mindset #selflove

Also see previous video: 55 Forms of Verbal Abuse

55 Forms of Verbal Abuse (Non-Narrated) Next up - 60 Forms of Non-Verbal Abuse

Two toxic individuals can easily develop a toxic dynamic in which both partners feed into each other’s harmful behaviors.

Over time, this dynamic becomes normalized, and they may even become defensive, enabling, or making excuses for it. When one partner is controlling or abusive, and the other comes from an upbringing where love was inconsistent or withheld, the dynamic becomes even more complicated.

The deprived partner may interpret control as care, mistaking the intensity for love. This creates a harmful yet powerful bond, forming a perfect recipe for confusion, dependency, and a cycle that feels familiar rather than healthy. Within their shared reality, they may genuinely believe they are happy, simply because this is the only version of “love” they’ve ever known.

Lacking exposure to healthier relationships, they remain oblivious to the dysfunction. And ultimately, if that is the dynamic they accept and are satisfied with, it becomes their version of normal.

#mentalhealth #education #mindset #couple #relationship #love #family

Are you keeping the 'peace' or performing? 🤔

This is not everyone’s experience, and telling this to others can be harmful! Let's chat.

#education #relationship #couple #mentalhealth #mindset

Those who dim your light in romantic relationships. Alternatively, someone you know: a family member or friend. Let's have a quick chat about how this all starts! And to be clear- this is abusive behavior.

#mentalhealth #education #relationship #couple #marriage

This video not only answers a viewer’s question regarding a recent video I released, but also expands on the video titled: 'White Gatekeeping Must Stop' (Spaces that remain overwhelmingly white) The viewer's question on that video: Why should we continue to try to integrate? Why not try to create nontoxic spaces?

Not only is it time to Dismantle Systemic Exclusion & Gatekeeping based on White Supremacy, but racism needs to have consequences; in fact, I feel it should be banned...eradicated 🤌🏿🤌🏾🤌🏽🤌🏻 Enough is enough. Let’s dive in! 🩵💙

Timestamps: 

00:00 - Intro

00:51 - TIMEOUT: Setting some things straight! Injustice does not fix itself

01:48 - How some white people are relentless in pursuing their way even when wrong!

02:40 - it’s time not time to shrink! Time to stand taller & not back down!

03:05 - PROJECT your privilege too! It can and will not be a one-way thing. Let’s rewrite the narrative collectively.

04:14 - Example of how some spaces would be impossible to ‘create our own’ because the space is already taken! We need laws against land or space hoarding & REDISTRIBUTION.

05:31 - Part 1: the illusion of ‘safety’ in segregation. Such groups cannot be left unchecked!

07:31 - Part 2: Toxicity is not exclusive to one group! In order to dismantle: We need to address all of the layers and side effects of systemic racism.

09:04 - Colorism, texturism, internalized racism

09:28 - Story time: one about my sister & one story about me. 14:29 - Part 3: Segregation does not necessarily ’heal’

16:14 - Part 4: The path forward lies in diverse and accountable spaces

17:52 Closing Statement

#education #mentalhealth #relationship #unity

Let’s take the time to learn about one another’s experiences: to listen, connect, and grow together. By embracing our individuality, uniqueness, and diversity, we can build stronger, more inclusive communities.

We discuss spaces that remain overwhelmingly white & unwelcoming. White Gatekeeping in these Spaces is UNDENIABLE. People of color are too often met with suspicion, stares, microaggressions, or even open hostility. This needs to change. It’s time to dismantle systemic exclusion and gatekeeping rooted in white supremacy.

The key is unity and the commitment to collective, anti-racist action. We all have the power to create a better, more just world. Every effort counts. Every voice matters.

#education #mentalhealth #love #motivation #antiracism #diversity #unity #culture #travel

Stop thinking that people who aren’t in your exact shoes cannot provide relevant, quality, and sound advice.

#mentalhealth #mindset #education

Although you may have a positive personal experience or exposure, it’s important to understand that some people do not and may even have trauma stemming from their exposure to religion.

Unfortunately, some people weaponize religion to justify toxic behaviors- such as control, manipulation, emotional and sexual abuse, racism, sexism, + more. Let's chat about it.

In this video, I address toxic mindsets and criticism surrounding social media & taking accountability for the part YOU play in the negative aspects of these platforms. Be it things such as:

• Couples, control & jealousy

• Envy & Competition

• Comparison

• Criticism of others' behavior, posting frequency, what they choose to wear, what they choose to share

• Speaking of those who ‘privacy criticize’ the openness of users, and yet have social media

• Curated profiles & false sense of superiority

#education #mentalhealth #relationship #couple #mindset

A Message for Both Walkers and Neighborhood Residents.

Let’s clear some things up. A look into human rights, entitlement, and what real neighborhood threats are.

#education #racism #diversity #disability #love

Being aware and making careful decisions can be helpful for the longevity and health of your partnership. What are some meaningful passions or hobbies that you feel have to be shared with a partner? And which ones do you think should be supported but not necessarily shared? And, what does support look like for you?

Have you ever had someone respond this way to you after taking the time to write a message, email, or letter? Communication is an essential part of being human. Responding with immaturity or disrespect doesn’t demonstrate strength or superiority; it reveals the opposite.

If someone chooses to engage in conversation, why not meet them with maturity and respect? It’s a basic part of life, and there are countless ways to communicate thoughtfully. Written and verbal communication each offer unique advantages.

Writing, in particular, allows us to pause, reflect, edit our thoughts, and express ourselves with clarity. It gives us time to re-read, correct mistakes, and engage when we’re mentally ready, without the pressure of being interrupted. Instead of dismissing these forms of communication, we should appreciate the space they create for more intentional and respectful dialogue. This is all providing the message being received is respectful in nature and not harassing, threatening, or harmful, of course. I think back to instances when I received long messages. The funny thing is, I have never thought to respond in this sort of way, because I value a person's time and effort to communicate or express themselves, whether it's writing or speaking. And yes, even in cases when the message may have aggravated me. I can compartmentalize my appreciation for a person taking the time and effort to write, vs. how the actual message may come across or make me feel. I am able to do this whether they make valid points, leaving me unable to refute the message, or whether it reveals misunderstandings or disagreements. What falls under being toxic? It can be both intentional and unintentional.

All hope is not lost! You can certainly recognize your toxic patterns and seek support to work on personal and inner growth. Toxic in relation to people: All things that fall under Verbal, emotional, and physical abuse, neglect, unaddressed or neglected mental health issues, poor emotional regulation skills, disrespectful, inconsistent, gaslighting, causing drama or conflict with others, manipulative, not accepting responsibility, plus more.

It could be how they were raised, their experiences, personality, or a combination. They don't know healthy ways to deal with their own stress, so they behave in ways that cause harm to other people. These people can create stress and unpleasantness for you and others, not to mention emotional and even physical pain. Source: WebMD. May you stay toxic-free! Much love.

Let me save you some time. This video is not for you if:

(1) You are a toxic fan (if you exhibit any of the behaviors I discuss in this video, you will be blocked).

(2) You don't respect people's lived experience, as it is not up for debate! Keep the comments respectful to me and my supporters.

(3) You have a short attention span & reactively jump to comments or draw conclusions without listening to the entirety of a message or video.

(4) You don’t get the concept that, yes, you can either appreciate, love, or like a person and also constructively criticize.

Then, just don’t even bother watching the video! lol

Description: In light of my experience, this video is a combination of an educational analysis of concerts, toxic fans, promotions, and generally any artist.

My opinion is inserted throughout the video, and lastly, a portion detailing my actual experience at the festival seeing the Vybz Kartel concert in Germany.

All of it will be tied into mental health/wellness. I have been a fan of Vybz for 20 years and will provide my honest opinion of seeing him live. Summerjam Festival I can only recommend Summerjam as a wonderful and family-friendly yearly event. A beautiful blend of culture, diversity, wonderful worldwide food options, and, of course, lovely music!

Chapters 00:00 Disclaimer

00:39 Video Intro

03:25 Who am I?

04:28 Toxic Fans: Signs of a Toxic Fan + Psychological Definitions, Obsession, Gaslighting fans

13:26 Artist Vocals: Intro, Factors That Do and Do Not Affect Live Vocals. Crowds have no relevance to how vocals sound.

15:57 Artists & the Impact of Fame. Being surrounded by ‘yes men’. Narcissism

17:09 Concert Expectations

18:09 Vybz Kartel in Germany: Observations, analysis, reflection.My experience at the concert. Comment I left on the concert post.

27:12 Vybz & his Health: observations & what fans notice. Excuses for? Drinking, smoking

28:28 Closing: Receiving Constructive Criticism is an option. 30:34 Festival Recap/Footage and Imagery

A message open to all, no matter your color or culture. Grab your favorite drink or snack & let's chat! My video is based on a presentation I created & posted to my social media called 'reversal', based on images and writing depicting a reversed perspective on people's lived experience.

Don't worry if you did not see the post; I will display some of the images directly in this video (not all). Advantages of listening to comprehend in life (without the intent to immediately respond, react, or comment): better understanding and less conflict :) let's open our minds, improve our mindset, and evolve into a better version of ourselves.

Much love to all, and enjoy.

CHAPTERS entire video includes: quiet moments with written messages on screen & The benefits of a more aware perspective are sprinkled throughout the entire video. 00:00 Intro - about, why, my background, being multiculturally mixed, introduction, benefits, mindset 05:10 Discussion on three images consolidated: the doll test and the impact of racism on children 06:20 image: elevator discussion. profiling, prejudice, racism, colorism, racial bias, preference 06:40 personal story: walking in the park & how I was treated vs. mom/friend, microaggressions, allyship, unity, community 11:31 image diversity: only white person in all black space + personal chat 13:54 image: happy shopping! all black beauty products -discussion + personal chat, inclusion 14:39 WHITE + GREEN TEXT BOX reflection question :h ow do you think you would feel? 16:03 image: leadership feature wall - has only one white person + personal chat 18:08 (purple, orange, blue) THREE IMPORTANT WRITTEN MESSAGES ON SCREEN. FREEDOM of being the majority in a space. neurodivergent, adhd, autism, audhd. 23:30 personal story: 1st ballet class, racial trauma, girl wipes my 'brown' skin touch off of her skin 28:25 important message on being white/black & our struggles 29:15 image: when spaces are all black & only one white person. nNt fair? iIclusion good for all 30:32 image: immigration & the tables turn: USA needs to migrate out, discrimination 32:50 closing thoughts d i s c l a i m e r What works for me may not work for you. Don't like it? simple, leave. Hate or disrespect will not be tolerated. MY LIFE. MY OPINIONS. MY KNOWLEDGE. MY EXPERIENCES. If you enjoy my channel, consider supporting: https://ko-fi.com/lapeachyrebel #culture #love #unity #education #diversityandinclusion #story

Let's chat about hair texture acceptance we need from all people while I show you how versatile my hair is. More hair love for all people, all textures. This video is for everyone, no matter your gender, color, or culture.

We made cannelloni for Mother's Day! Enjoy some special moments with my mom as we make one of the traditional recipes I grew up eating on special occasions. I originally learned to make dishes from my Italian grandmother.

We made things like lasagna, pasta from scratch, Italian ring cookies, plus more. Cannelloni is a long process, and normally, you make everything from scratch. The tomato sauce, the minced meat stuffing, the béchamel sauce, and the pasta, which you would make the dough, then roll the sheets in the machine, and cut to size.

Okay, so here we made everything except the pasta sheets this time around to save some time; we purchased them from a local Italian store. We bought the refrigerated kinds, but you could also buy the dry ones. Either way, you have to cook them first. My mom came for a swift stopover visit, and we made the most of our time together.

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An introvert's dream, no annoying crowds! Enjoy as I play & spend a fun day at the beach. I lived in Hawaii for several years and was known for knowing the best beaches to go to for low to no crowds :). Visuals only, no narration. #hawaii #introvert #solitude #nature #dance

Empty House Tour. Enjoy!