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Let's stop further perpetuating this false beauty standard. Ageing is a privilege. We need to honor it, not shame it.

This video is from my IG and is both a response and a continuation of an older video I made on comparing. I’m using a clip of this guy as a direct example of why I support comparing in general and in relationships.

In the clip, he says he doesn’t think women should have certain rights, including that women shouldn't have unsupervised access to other women, and that their social media should be monitored, etc.

Has comparing any aspect of your life led to a positive life change for you? Feel free to also check out the original video on comparing in the mindset playlist titled “There’s Nothing Wrong with Comparing”. Feel free to also check out the original video on comparing in the mindset playlist titled “There’s Nothing Wrong with Comparing”.

The religious symbol that makes you feel comforted or safe can make someone else feel unsafe. To be clear: this video is not an invitation to debate religion. I will absolutely not be discussing or debating anyone’s religious beliefs in the comments.

Religion is being used here as an example of a broader issue: entitlement, imposing your beliefs onto shared/public spaces, and expecting your personal meaning to override someone else’s experience.

The point is the behavior and the unequal standard, not whether anyone’s particular religion or belief system is “right.” If carving “Jesus” into a public bench counts as devotion, then carving “Satan” into that same bench has to count as devotion too, because it’s the same behavior and the same disregard for public property. Calling one sacred and the other vandalism is entitlement, the assumption that your god/belief system gets special treatment others don’t.

They Just Want Attention. And? So what. Why is wanting attention automatically treated like a bad thing? In this video, I’m challenging the idea that being visible, expressive, or comfortable putting yourself out there somehow makes you less grounded, less secure, or less respectable. Maybe wanting attention isn’t the problem. Maybe you and your judgment are 😉. Let’s chat about it.

Let’s chat about why people criticize and react so strongly when someone dresses in a way they don’t find ‘acceptable’.

#education #mindset #mentalhealth

My family and I have been navigating the journey of supporting a loved one with mental illness for well over a decade.

My sister's missing persons report was publicly posted by the Federal police, along with other community pages, which garnered a lot of interest (thankfully, she was found!).

Due to the repetitive comments people often make (and a few very ignorant remarks), I’d like to set some things straight regarding mental illness and homelessness.

Over the years, we have heard many well-intentioned but ultimately unhelpful comments. Such statements often reflect a lack of understanding and can be unintentionally hurtful. I hope this can help you gain a better understanding of this topic and allow you to spread awareness about it with others.

Thanks for tuning in.

Jealousy is an emotion. Weaponizing it is a choice.

There's a big difference between recognizing your insecurities and making everyone else responsible for them.

If you're constantly monitoring your partner's every move, creating stories about people who've done nothing to you, or confusing control with love, it may be time to ask yourself whether you're protecting your relationship or feeding your own fears.

In this video, I break down 10 behaviors that are often disguised as "being protective" but are actually rooted in insecurity and jealousy.

Healthy relationships aren't built on surveillance, manipulation, or control. They're built on trust, communication, emotional maturity, and accountability.

Your insecurities are your responsibility. They're not your partner's responsibility, and they're certainly not the responsibility of innocent people you've decided to compete with.

Which behavior do you think gets normalized the most in relationships?

#Relationships #education #marriage #couples #love

The number of people who complain about winter every single year is insane! Lol. Either relocate to a warmer climate or learn to embrace it- because the complaints won’t change the fact that winter shows up every year. But don’t worry, I used to be one of those people too.

A few years ago, I got tired of hearing myself complain, so I decided to change my mindset and my approach, and it worked; now I actually enjoy Winter. Let’s get into it! ⛄️

#education #mentalhealth #winter #ski #mindset

Stop chasing optics. We were taught that love has a formula: Rings. Marriage. Kids. Traditions. Milestones. Some of the most “perfect-looking” relationships are deeply unhappy. And some of the healthiest ones break every rule.

You don’t need traditional milestones to have something deeply healthy, loving, and secure. Maybe letting go of the need for the aesthetic is where the peace and fulfillment actually begin.

Cherishing your loved ones doesn’t just mean spending ‘time’ together. Time means nothing if you choose to either stay toxic or neglect your health - which will catch up to you eventually & make everyone suffer around you. Love is attachment, just like a web. If one part of the web is affected, it affects the entire web. People cannot change you; they can send you messages, but it’s up to you to care enough to change.

Which person are you? 🧐

1) The honest/direct one. Ppl can't handle it 😮‍💨

2) Yikes! I am the one who reacts & deflects 🫣

3) Just a touch of both!🤪

#education #mentalhealth

Comparing is natural and human. It is often painted as a problem when it’s not. Let’s discuss the real issue.

#education #mentalhealth #mindset #selflove

Stop thinking that people who aren’t in your exact shoes cannot provide relevant, quality, and sound advice.

#mentalhealth #mindset #education

Although you may have a positive personal experience or exposure, it’s important to understand that some people do not and may even have trauma stemming from their exposure to religion.

Unfortunately, some people weaponize religion to justify toxic behaviors- such as control, manipulation, emotional and sexual abuse, racism, sexism, + more. Let's chat about it.

In this video, I address toxic mindsets and criticism surrounding social media & taking accountability for the part YOU play in the negative aspects of these platforms. Be it things such as:

• Couples, control & jealousy

• Envy & Competition

• Comparison

• Criticism of others' behavior, posting frequency, what they choose to wear, what they choose to share

• Speaking of those who ‘privacy criticize’ the openness of users, and yet have social media

• Curated profiles & false sense of superiority

#education #mentalhealth #relationship #couple #mindset

Have you ever had someone respond this way to you after taking the time to write a message, email, or letter? Communication is an essential part of being human. Responding with immaturity or disrespect doesn’t demonstrate strength or superiority; it reveals the opposite.

If someone chooses to engage in conversation, why not meet them with maturity and respect? It’s a basic part of life, and there are countless ways to communicate thoughtfully. Written and verbal communication each offer unique advantages.

Writing, in particular, allows us to pause, reflect, edit our thoughts, and express ourselves with clarity. It gives us time to re-read, correct mistakes, and engage when we’re mentally ready, without the pressure of being interrupted. Instead of dismissing these forms of communication, we should appreciate the space they create for more intentional and respectful dialogue. This is all providing the message being received is respectful in nature and not harassing, threatening, or harmful, of course. I think back to instances when I received long messages. The funny thing is, I have never thought to respond in this sort of way, because I value a person's time and effort to communicate or express themselves, whether it's writing or speaking. And yes, even in cases when the message may have aggravated me. I can compartmentalize my appreciation for a person taking the time and effort to write, vs. how the actual message may come across or make me feel. I am able to do this whether they make valid points, leaving me unable to refute the message, or whether it reveals misunderstandings or disagreements. What falls under being toxic? It can be both intentional and unintentional.

All hope is not lost! You can certainly recognize your toxic patterns and seek support to work on personal and inner growth. Toxic in relation to people: All things that fall under Verbal, emotional, and physical abuse, neglect, unaddressed or neglected mental health issues, poor emotional regulation skills, disrespectful, inconsistent, gaslighting, causing drama or conflict with others, manipulative, not accepting responsibility, plus more.

It could be how they were raised, their experiences, personality, or a combination. They don't know healthy ways to deal with their own stress, so they behave in ways that cause harm to other people. These people can create stress and unpleasantness for you and others, not to mention emotional and even physical pain. Source: WebMD. May you stay toxic-free! Much love.

Let me save you some time. This video is not for you if:

(1) You are a toxic fan (if you exhibit any of the behaviors I discuss in this video, you will be blocked).

(2) You don't respect people's lived experience, as it is not up for debate! Keep the comments respectful to me and my supporters.

(3) You have a short attention span & reactively jump to comments or draw conclusions without listening to the entirety of a message or video.

(4) You don’t get the concept that, yes, you can either appreciate, love, or like a person and also constructively criticize.

Then, just don’t even bother watching the video! lol

Description: In light of my experience, this video is a combination of an educational analysis of concerts, toxic fans, promotions, and generally any artist.

My opinion is inserted throughout the video, and lastly, a portion detailing my actual experience at the festival seeing the Vybz Kartel concert in Germany.

All of it will be tied into mental health/wellness. I have been a fan of Vybz for 20 years and will provide my honest opinion of seeing him live. Summerjam Festival I can only recommend Summerjam as a wonderful and family-friendly yearly event. A beautiful blend of culture, diversity, wonderful worldwide food options, and, of course, lovely music!

Chapters 00:00 Disclaimer

00:39 Video Intro

03:25 Who am I?

04:28 Toxic Fans: Signs of a Toxic Fan + Psychological Definitions, Obsession, Gaslighting fans

13:26 Artist Vocals: Intro, Factors That Do and Do Not Affect Live Vocals. Crowds have no relevance to how vocals sound.

15:57 Artists & the Impact of Fame. Being surrounded by ‘yes men’. Narcissism

17:09 Concert Expectations

18:09 Vybz Kartel in Germany: Observations, analysis, reflection.My experience at the concert. Comment I left on the concert post.

27:12 Vybz & his Health: observations & what fans notice. Excuses for? Drinking, smoking

28:28 Closing: Receiving Constructive Criticism is an option. 30:34 Festival Recap/Footage and Imagery